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The penalties and consequences

Do not bother to exhaustive scientific article about it, but rather I want to share feelings after reading the discussions about the differences between the penalties and consequences on the wild side child http://dzikiedzieci.pl/index.php?strona=373
me to be associated the of a conversation carried on by vBulletin sometime, that a child does not listen to warnings like "do not go there because you will fall," it when it drops, no consolation in it. I could not agree with this and still do not agree. Doggedly tried to explain that the child sufficient consequence (punishment) is a pain (and also a kind of defeat, however, that my mother was right) and do not need him to further dokopywać leaving without consolation. Cemented in the read me in the above. sentence of article: Consequences
also learn honesty as opposed to punishment, the consequences do not depend on whether the issue and even a parent can help in trouble.

can not imagine, not to cheer Martusia, has fallen from a chair, or a device on the playground! If you announce it, threatening the behavior, I trust that he understands, or at least has the consequences and take the risk on their own responsibility. So learn the best! After all, does not necessarily fall off! It does not have a break! But when it happens, I can not imagine no comfort, no hug! And so we think some of that child who nabroiło not deserve support, because I still understand it as a reward for bad behavior. But that probably betrays a great distrust of their children or / and a belief that they are stupid or / and bad soil. And yet, when we do something wrong and suffer the unpleasant consequences, we expect that people at least we do not criticize (not dokopią "I told you"), and often want and need help.
So when a child spills something is senseless to give him a slap for it. Rather, you have to give him a towel and help (if necessary) to sustain the consequences. In this way he will learn that you have to be careful, and if an accident happens, you just have to clean up. However, slate indeed shows that the child has done wrong, but it gives the wrong incentives - do not spill, because it will hurt (slate). And unless we want to teach kids clean up after yourself:) And so, paradoxically, by the fear of a painful punishment, the child may instead avoid the "bad" behavior, just hide them. Like

agree with the authors of, but very difficult for me to imagine life without penalty. Fortunately, I do not have too many reasons to use them:) But it's about our whole mentality, "narozrabiał = must be punished." I see lies in the fact that the ears!
however, may be helpful to the establishment of trust to the child that wants it's good that wants to be like us, that it depends on us, in our opinion and our love.
then turns out to be his own most important example, we learn to scream screaming, beating, learn to fight, supporting, learn to support, love, learn to love.

But why is it so hard?